Wednesday 31 December 2014

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2015

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2015

What is outside is harder to change than what is inside? Follow the path of least resistance.
Paulo Coelho

Friday 26 December 2014

It was not her choice but her compulsion

I was sitting in paediatric OPD.A mother came with a child who was diagnosed with measles.She was advised for hospitalization.
Suddenly ,about four year child who was standing beside her mother, spoke----uncle we have no money !!!!!!

After some time i realised why her mother came to government . hospital.
It was not her choice but her compulsion ---and that raises many questions that need to be answered urgently and honestly

Nothing in this world is ever completely wrong .

One wanted to follow all possible paths and so ended up following none .So evident------is not not so?
So what to do?
Choose some path and follow them,abandon others .Of course ,there is a risk in  choosing a wrong  path.But there is no way to select the right path also because outcome of right or wrong path is in future and will remain in the future till you take the desicion to follow a particular path.

Are you afraid of choosing a particular path? There is a consolation.Nothing in this world is ever completely wrong .

We all know even a stopped clock is right twice in a day.

Thursday 18 December 2014

Majority belongs to them.---yes ---it is democracy!!!!

The officer was sitting in front of a senior officer and indicating points of her concern regarding a purchase proposal .It was having no  impact over the boss .He was just predetermined to get the things done by hook or cook.
The  discussion took the ugly scene which was of no importance to  the senior officer because that was his style of functioning and he was tuned to that things .May be ,he used that style to  bloster his self-esteem and intimidate others.
Extreme self interest come in the last of discussion.
The senior officer said---"i have to save  my face" . He instructed officer to go and give second thought to agree to the proposal .
He also said which was height of  his arrogance and insensitivity ----that is----i have to protect my family , my sons and daughter.I am not concerned of you  .Do whatever i say to do.
The most surprising thing was that the senior officer was certainly trying to get the thins done which was wrong .
This  is example of  good governance !!!!!!.

Who is that officer ?Where he is? Why he is so?Who is victim of such officer?What should be done to such officer?
God only knows--NO.
Everyone knows. and surprisingly rarely any one is to support an upright officer.
Why?
Majority belongs to them.---yes ---it is democracy!!!!


Tuesday 16 December 2014

Just one bit at a time


Happy the man,and happy he alone ,
He,who can call to-day his own;
He who ,secure within ,can say ;
'to-morrow ,do thy worst ,for i have liv'd to-day

Roman poet 
 HORACE 
Every day brings new life to life, so try to live only one day at a time .

Try to take one step at a time.
Try to solve one problem at a time .
Try to do one thing at a time.

--------and anything ---just one bit at a time
---just --that is all that  is needed to live for a day ----yes! live for one day at time ,one hour at a time ,one minute at a time ,one second at a time  and ----that is all to live a happy and anxiety free life.

Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance ,but to do what lies clearly at hand ---Thomas Carlyle 

Wednesday 10 December 2014

Look is always at forefront of a lady mind

Recently my wife got operated for eye problem.She is recovering nicely and i am taking care of her in the best possible way.
I am cooking for my family . I am getting my son ready for schools,

Every now and then, i am looking after her concens .
 She is also concerned but her concern was  bit confusing to me  at a glance
She asked how  "is my eye looking ?"
Fine---

Is it looking as it used to be? ----
That bring my attention to her concern of her look   --and i was losing sight that she was a lady ?
Her concern was really important ---may not have same significance for me.
After all --she is a lady and look is always at forefront of  a lady mind .

LET US GLOBALISE COMPASSION, AND SET OUR CHILDREN FREE

Nobel Lecture

Nobel Lecture by Kailash Satyarthi, Oslo, 10 December 2014.

LET US GLOBALISE COMPASSION, AND SET OUR CHILDREN FREE

 
(My dear children of the world…)
Your Majesties, Your Royal Highnesses, Excellencies, distinguished members of the Norwegian Nobel Committee, dear brother Tom Harkin, brothers and sisters, a and my dear daughter Malala.
From this podium of peace and humanity, I am deeply honoured to recite a mantra from the ancient texts of wisdom, Vedas.
This mantra carries a prayer, an aspiration and a resolve that has the potential to liberate humanity from all man-made crises.
Let's walk together. In the pursuit of global progress, not a single person should be left out or left behind in any corner of the world, from East to West, from South to North.
Let's speak together, let our minds come together! Learning from the experiences of our ancestors, let us together create knowledge for all that benefits all.
I bow to my late parents, to my motherland India, and to the mother earth.
With a warm heart I recall how thousands of times, I have been liberated, each time I have freed a child from slavery. In the first smile of freedom on their beautiful faces, I see the Gods smiling. 
I give the biggest credit of this honour to my movement's Kaalu Kumar, Dhoom Das and Adarsh Kishore from India and Iqbal Masih from Pakistan who made the supreme sacrifice for protecting the freedom and dignity of children. I humbly accept this award on behalf of all such martyrs, my fellow activists across the world and my countrymen.
My journey from the great land of Lord Buddha, Guru Nanak and Mahatma Gandhi; India to Norway is a connect between the two centres of global peace and brotherhood, ancient and modern.
Friends, the Nobel Committee generously invited me to deliver a "lecture.” Respectfully, I am unable to do that.
I represent here the sound of silence. The cry of innocence. And, the face of invisibility. I have come here to share the voices and dreams of our children, our children, because they are all our children.
I have looked into their frightened and exhausted eyes. And I have heard their urgent questions:
Twenty years ago, in the foothills of the Himalayas, I met a small, skinny boy. He asked me: "Is the world so poor that it cannot give me a toy and a book, instead of forcing me to take a tool or gun?”
I met with a Sudanese child-soldier who was kidnapped by an extremist militia. As his first training, he was forced to kill his friends and family. He asked me: "What is my fault?”
Twelve years ago, a child-mother from the streets of Colombia – trafficked, raped, enslaved – asked me this: "I have never had a dream. Can my child have one?”
There is no greater violence than to deny the dreams of our children.
The single aim of my life is that every child is:
free to be a child,
free to grow and develop,
free to eat, sleep, see daylight,
free to laugh and cry,
free to play,
free to learn, free to go to school, and above all,
free to dream.
All the great religions tell us to care for children. Jesus said: "Let the children come to me; do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to them.” The Holy Quran says: "Kill not your children because of poverty.”
I refuse to accept that all the temples and mosques and churches and prayer houses have no place for the dreams of our children.
I refuse to accept that the world is so poor, when just one week of global spending on armies is enough to bring all of our children into classrooms.
I refuse to accept that all the laws and constitutions, and the judges and the police are not able to protect our children.
I refuse to accept that the shackles of slavery can ever be stronger than the quest for freedom.
I REFUSE TO ACCEPT.
I am privileged to work with many courageous souls who also refuse to accept. We have never given up against any threat and attack, and we will never. Undoubtedly, progress has been made in the last couple of decades. The number of out of school children has been halved. Child mortality and malnutrition has been reduced, and millions of child deaths have been prevented. The number of child labourers in the world has been reduced by a third. Make no mistake, great challenges still remain.
Friends, the biggest crisis knocking on the doors of humanity today is intolerance.
We have utterly failed in imparting an education to our children. An education that gives the meaning and objective of life and a secure future. An education that builds a sense of global citizenship among the young people. I am afraid that the day is not far when the cumulative result of this failure will culminate in unprecedented violence that will be suicidal for humankind.
Yet, young people like Malala, are rising up everywhere and choosing peace over violence, tolerance over extremism, and courage over fear.
Solutions are not found only in the deliberations in conferences and prescriptions from a distance. They lie in small groups and local organisations and individuals, who confront the problem every day, even if they remain unrecognised and unknown to the world
Eighteen years ago, millions of my brothers and sisters in 103 countries marched across 80,000 kilometres. And, a new international law against child labour was born. We have done this.
You may ask: what can one person do? Let me tell you a story I remember from my childhood: A terrible fire had broken out in the forest. All the animals were running away, including the lion, king of the forest. Suddenly, the lion saw a tiny bird rushing towards the fire. He asked the bird, "what are you doing?” To the lion's surprise, the bird replied "I am on my way to extinguish the fire.” He laughed and said, "how can you kill the fire with just one drop of water, in your beak?” The bird was adamant, and said, "But I am doing my bit.”
You and I live in the age of rapid globalisation. We are connected through high-speed Internet. We exchange goods and services in a single global market. Each day, thousands of flights connect us to every corner of the globe.
But there is one serious disconnect. It is the lack of compassion. Let us inculcate and transform the individuals' compassion into a global movement. Let us globalise compassion. Not passive compassion, but transformative compassion that leads to justice, equality, and freedom.
Mahatma Gandhi said, "If we are to teach real peace in this world... we shall have to begin with the children.” I humbly add, let us unite the world through the compassion for our children.
Whose children are they who stitch footballs, yet have never played with one? They are our children. Whose children are they who mine stones and minerals? They are our children. Whose children are they who harvest cocoa, yet do not know the taste of a chocolate? They are all our children.
Devli was born into intergenerational debt and bonded labour in India. Sitting in my car immediately after her rescue the eight-year-old girl asked: Why did you not come earlier? Her angry question still shakes me – and has the power to shake the world. Her question is for all of us. Why did we not come earlier? What are we waiting for? How many more Devlis will we allow to go without rescue? How many more girls will be abducted, confined and abused? Children, like Devli across the world are questioning our inaction and watching our actions.
We need collective actions with a sense of urgency. Every single minute matters, every single child matters, every single childhood matters.
I challenge the passivity and pessimism surrounding our children. I challenge this culture of silence, this culture of neutrality.
I, therefore, call upon all the governments, intergovernmental agencies, businesses, faith leaders, the civil society, and each one of us, to put an end to all forms of violence against children. Slavery, trafficking, child marriages, child labour, sexual abuse, and illiteracy have no place in any civilised society.
Friends, we can do this.
Governments must make child friendly policies, and invest in education and young people.
Businesses must be more responsible and open to innovative partnerships.
Intergovernmental agencies must work together to accelerate action.
Global civil society must rise above business-as-usual and scattered agendas.
Faith leaders and institutions, and all of us must stand with our children.
We must be bold, we must be ambitious, and we must have the will. We must keep our promises.
Over fifty years ago, on the first day of my school I met a cobbler boy my age sitting at the school gate, polishing shoes. I asked my teachers these questions: "Why is he working outside? Why is he not coming to school with me?” My teachers had no answer. One day, I gathered the courage to ask the boys' father. He said: "Sir, I have never thought about it. We are just born to work.” This made me angry. It still makes me angry. I challenged it then, and I am challenging it today.
As a child, I had a vision of tomorrow. That cobbler boy was studying with me in my classroom. Now, that tomorrow has become TODAY. I am TODAY, and you are TODAY. TODAY it is time for every child to have the right to life, the right to freedom, the right to health, the right to education, the right to safety, the right to dignity, the right to equality, and the right to peace.
TODAY, beyond the darkness, I see the smiling faces of our children in the blinking stars. TODAY, in every wave of every ocean, I see our children playing and dancing. TODAY, in every plant, tree, and mountain, I see that little cobbler boy sitting with me in the classroom.
I want you to see and feel this TODAY inside you. My dear sisters and brothers, may I ask you to close your eyes and put your hand close to your heart for a moment?   Can you feel the child inside you? Now, listen to this child. I am sure you can!
Today, I see thousands of Mahatma Gandhis, Martin Luther Kings, andNelson Mandelas marching forward and calling on us. The boys and girls have joined. I have joined in. We ask you to join too.
Let us democratise knowledge.
Let us universalise justice.
Together, let us globalise compassion, for our children!
I call upon you in this room, and all across the world.
I call for a march from exploitation to education, from poverty to shared prosperity, a march from slavery to liberty, and a march from violence to peace.

Let us march from darkness to light. Let us march from mortality to divinity.
Let us march!

SOURCE  <http://www.nobelprize.org/nobel_prizes/peace/laureates/2014/satyarthi-lecture_en.html>

Monday 8 December 2014

Delhi pavement is great

Delhi pavement is great

The old man sitting on the pavement declined to take the polythene bag full of apples .My wife was purchasing some fruits from the vendor in front of her medical complex and she asked the the vendor to offer the fruit to that old person.
Actually that old man was frequently seen beside the path.
We had discussed about that person because his appearance and way of sitting and sleeping was not consistent with the path dwellers or beggars.

He used to  bear relatively clean Kurta and Pajama.He was a white bearded person .

We used to see him whenever we go to for the evening walk .Sometime he was also seen during mid-day

.He had a plastic bucket containing something .

We have seen him sleeping on the plastic sheet ,which was of good quality .
He had a few aluminium utensils .

We have seen him cooking the food .
 .
A chulha was prepared by using two bricks kept side by side What exactly he used to cook ,i could only guess .Most likely it was rice .He used to blow with mouth for fire to be more intense and in the process once i saw the wrinkle over his face .

Who he is ,from where he has come is  enigma for me. .
I wish i could know about him because he was at least not a beggar
AND he has proved that by declining the the bag of apple .

Perhaps he appears to victim of social apathy ,social negligence by his own son/daughter
Perhaps he has been enforced to sleep on the pavement of  Delhi .
Delhi pavement is great ,, it provides shelter to many individual??????????????



Friday 5 December 2014

If what you do is good for others, it’ll be good for you too

 If what you do is good for others, it’ll be good for you too


Whatever good work you do, you’re bound to face problems and obstacles. Therefore, it’s important to check your motivation. It helps to be truthful and honest. If what you do is good for others, it’ll be good for you too. Once you know your goal can be reached, you should try to follow it through to the end. Then, even if you don’t achieve it, at least you’ll have no cause for regret.
DALAI LAMA

Wednesday 3 December 2014

LISTEN NOT ONLY WITH EARS BUT ALSO WITH EYES
-----he/she may have bigger problems/things to share

Saturday 15 November 2014

Do you remember when you got last praise ?


Do you like praise ?
Who does not?
Do you remember when you got last praise ?
Not remembering ?---no surprise .
Do you remember  when you last criticised someone?
Laughing---WHY?
I myself just criticised my wife for her habit of wasting time in seeing BIG BOSS serial. I just criticised my son for not starting the study.
I am sure ---you do not need to remmemeber when you crticisised someone for something.
It is a matter of routine rather than exception---why?
Why are we so miser in praise  .
Why not we use ability of human being to praise others .
Answer lies in our perception
Perhaps we think that criticism works more than that of praise.

But this is an  illusion.--this is not a fact .Skinner has proved over the dog . When a dog can be trained with the instrument of praise and reward ,WHY NOT WE PEOPLE?

To realise the power of praise --

Try from now---

Praise your wife .
Praise your son
Praise your friend 
Praise your brother 
Praise your sister
Praise your daughter
Praise your mother 
Praise your father
Praise employer 
Praise your boss
Praise your friend 
Praise your student
Praise everyone who come in your contact 
and you will see the wonder 
you will be surprised.

If it is difficult to praise any one --
praise yourself --
Yes, yourself (ironically , self -praise is also not common ) and you see the change .
Miracle will happen .

Yes ----Praise is the the strongest instrument to spur people for the success.

LET US USE THIS POWERFUL INSTRUMENT .

Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement .Be hearty in ypur approbation and lavish in your praise.------DALE CARNEGIE

Praise is like sunlight to the warm human spirit;we cannot flower and grow without it.And yet ,while most of us are only too ready to apply to others to the cold wind of criticism, we are somehow reluctant to give our fellow the warm sunshine of praise.----JESS LAIR (PSYCHOLOGIST)

Friday 14 November 2014

no right to say or to do

I have no right to say or to do anything that diminishes a man in his own eyes .What matters is not what i think of him ,but what he thinks of himself.Hurting in this dinity is a crime 
ANTOINE DE SAINT-EXUPERY

JUXTAPOSE THE REWARD WITH THE DESIRED BEHAVIOUR


Now-a days,Delhi season is under change .Winter is knocking the door .
It is evening and i myself is feeling a bit of cold while my son ,11 yrs old is careless and is hardly listening to my suggestion to wear the sweater to overcome cold.Already he is having cold and his voice is choked.I asked him to wear the sweater indicating that he may be dropped from gymnastics team of his school due to illness Such veiled persuation  to wear had no impact .

After some time ,he wore sweater which was surprising to me .On probing i came across the fact that he wore sweater  because he was concerned that his  mother would not  give him "mixtures" to eat  unless he wore the sweater .

This event brought my attention to the importance of  immediate need of child..I was trying to have result based on fulfillment of  remote need  of child For a child, fulfillment of his distant need has little significance for immediate action ..

SO IN CONTEXT OF CHILD BEHAVIOR ,JUXTAPOSE THE REWARD WITH THE DESIRED BEHAVIOUR and that reward should be related to actual need of child (not the perceived need)



Sunday 9 November 2014

Appeal for nobler motives works

Sweeper of our complex is is a hard working lady.She does her work very nicely and is always courteous to all of us .But she does not have good relatioship with my  wife for the reasons beyond my understanding .There is often scuffle at the end of month during payment of service charge.She often want something more than service charge which my wife often used to decline .

Recently  she is going to marry her daughter and she handed over to my wife the invitation letter with a request to contribute something to meet expenses of marriage .
I was surprised my wife was kind enough to gift may things It was surprising for me .

I asked ----how you managed to gift so much of things 

She replied --it is marriage of her daughter and more than that it was helping towards  cause of a girl.I  being ,can understand it ---you cannot .

I myself felt proud of my wife .

I realized --appeal for nobler motives works .

Wednesday 5 November 2014

Make husband /wife to say YES and win the race

It is a pleasant morning ---said wife to his husband?

Yes ,it is really pleasant .

How about to go for morning walk ?

Yes ,we can. 

Husband and wife went for a morning  walk.

During walk they talk lot of affirmative things which was puzzling to wife .Her husband was almost always on others side 

She was thinking --what has happened ? Why her husband is so positive in mood ?

She was just perplexed .

Do you know why it was so?

BECAUSE her wife had used unconciously of the Socrates method ----yes technique .

Once a person is in YES mode ,it is path of least resistance and one YES leads to another in a vicious cycle .

So always try to secure YES for initial talk .Never allow the person to say NO in the beginning of talk because one NO will lead to further NO to maintain the consisitency and to preserve the ego.It is almost impossible to change from NO  to YES.

SO make husband /wife to say YES  and win the race.

Monday 3 November 2014

3rd The International Day of Radiology

This year, on November 8, the European Society of Radiology (ESR), the Radiological Society of North America (RSNA) and the American College of Radiology (ACR) will celebrate the third International Day of Radiology (IDoR 2014) with radiological societies the world over.

 The International Day of Radiology is an annual event which is held with the aim of building greater awareness of the value that radiology contributes to safe patient care, and improving understanding of the vital role radiologists play in the healthcare continuum.

We therefore chose November 8, the day that Wilhelm Conrad Röntgen discovered the existence of x-rays in 1895, as a day of action and awareness. We hope to alert the world to the stunning medical, scientific and even artistic possibilities of medical imaging, the essential role of the radiologist as a part of the healthcare team in countless medical scenarios, and the high educational and professional standards required of all staff working in medical imaging.
Brain imaging has been chosen as the main theme of the day, to highlight the important role that radiology plays in the detection, diagnosis and management of a wide variety of brain diseases.
source ---http://www.internationaldayofradiology.com/about-idor/

This concept benefited me enormously .


Accept your fault immediately and promptly-----

Easier said than to implement .

Everday we have experince of this fact .It is rare to accept wrongs if done .
Why?
Because it is taken as sign of weakness in routine process ,appears to downgrade the self-esteem and mind react very negatively.Defending a mistake is a routine response of human being.

But there is a universal concept of CAUSE AND EFFECT  and nothing can overcome it .If there is effect there is a cause ,although it may appear  be very subtle.If there is a cause,there would be effect .So if you have done wrong ,there would be effect  which may shift to  a distant future .And in such situation that effect may appear to have no cause.For a particular event ,cause has is to be there and  and that cause may date back even to  previous birth .
SO THERE IS NO WAY EXCEPT TO ACCEPT THE MISTAKE. 

Advantages of accepting mistake---

1.Accepting the  mistake require much courage and accepting the mistake is enough assurance to the person about his courageous attribute
2.removes the sense of guilt and defensiveness
3.helps to solve the problem that lead to mistake
4.gives feeling of nobility and exultation

Other side of the coin ----

When one accept the mistake ,very rarely the affected person respond in aggressive way .Starting oneself to condemn for mistake rarely invite rebuke from the affected person .Mostly become magnanimous to forgive/or show mercy  because candid acceptance of error  make that effected person important .And to be important is a big psychological need(rather craving)

So what to do when there is a mistake/error/fault?

Admit MISTAKE quickly and emphatically------Dale carnegie

I have used this concept of Dale Carnegie and it has benefited me enormously .


Friday 31 October 2014

I have been proven wrong many times

YES,you are wrong .Please change your concept, i am expert on this subject.I can show you lots of references .

 -----AND arguments went on on on and on with no sign of resolve.By the way i heard of cry of my son who just stumbled with chair in the conference hall.I hurriedly rushed to take care of my son that lead to  end of  an argument which was heading towards nastier way.

Such argument has taken place many times with no result.People were not agreeing to me even when i was  right in my contention.Why ?because i was habituated to say you are wrong .

Dale carnegie says---NEVER SAY YOU ARE WRONG .-----That amount to a direct blow at their intelligence ,judgement ,pride and self-respect.

So what to say and how to say----

Adapt the subtle way ,Use such phrase as---i may be wrong,i am frequently wrong.Let us examine the fact ----such rephrasing lessens resistance and does not attack others ego and has positive affirmative response.

BE WISER THAN OTHER PEOPLE IF YOU CAN BUT DONOT TELL THEM SO.-----LORD CHESTERFIELD

This concept has worked  many times for me  and i am sure it will work for you also ,although i have been proven wrong many times .


Thursday 30 October 2014

Be ready to go to hell

ARGUMENT
Lincoln--Better give your path to a dog than be bitten by him in contesting for the right .Even lulling the dog would not cure the bite


Have you ever made argument ? Surely ,all of us has done ? Have you ever won an argument? Have you ever lost the argument?

I donot know your experienc. Many times i have lost ,but winning was also not very pleasant .Personally, i  still remember the face of many  persons who lost the argument .And ironically ,that does not bloster my self esteem ,rather made me feel sad.It should not be . But that is reality .Perhaps saddening is due to association of saddened face of the loser .When i can not forget his saddened face ,how the loser can forget ? And that brings the issue of toxicity  of argument ,folly of argument .
YOU CAN NEVER WIN AN ARGUMENT----Dale Carnegie

Result of argument makes one inferior  and that  feeling is going to destroy  you in future .

Make an argument with prospective buyer ----be ready to lose the buyer.
Make an argument with the examiner ----be rady to fail
Make an argument with wife ---be ready to go to hell in this life .
Make an argument with your child ----be ready to face rebellion
Make an argument with the client ---be rady to lose the client

Make an argument with servant --be ready to do household works
Make an argument with boss--be ready to be fired up

 Argument and loss are like seamese twins ----cannot be seprated .Argument has positive feedback .Argument breeds argument.

By argumet you cannot change another 's mind

So donot have illusion---winning an argument is not winning at all.

According to Ben Franklin ---If you argue and rankle and contradict,you may achieve a victory sometimes ;but it will be an empty victory because you will never get your opponent 'goodwill.
So what will you like ---academic ,thearetical victory or a person 's goodwill.

SO train yourself  to avoid verbal fights
HOW ?
1.First ,agree with the proposition ,continue to agree with proposition and continue to agree with propostion  till ---till the proposition itself losess significance for the proponent ----may take a minute ,hrs and even days.Is it losing ? No, you will become winner moment the proposition loses significance and then put your point .PATIENCE (yes, time dimention is important) and your time-being acquiescence  will make you winner.

2.Second ,if first appears difficult and against your knowledge ,against authority ,against self -esteem ,shut your mouth for time being.Silence makes many things agreeable and automatically weaken the strength of opponent's arguments

3.Third ,change the subject and give true and honest appreciation of the person whom you want to win over(appeal to importance of person and allow him to inflate his/her ego)

Long term maesures-----

1.Welcome the disagreement
2.distrust your first instinctive impression --Defense
3.control your temper
4.listen first
5.look for areas of agreement
6.be honest,admit error and apologize
7.promise to think over your opponents ideas and study them carfully
8.thank your opponents sincerely for their interest and try to make friend
9.postpone action to give both sides time to think through the problem

BUDH ---Hatred is never ended by hatred but by love.




Sunday 19 October 2014

Metro station

Metro station  ,Seelampur ,Delhi

Very busy metro station ,lots of activity

One thing attracted my attention.

A lady bearing normal traditional dress was sitting beside a crowded path .Auto-rickshaw was standing here and there .Vendors were selling cut -fruits and some of people were relishing such fruits. One of stall was selling stylish spectacles.One was just looking in the hanging mirror posing as Shah rukh khan .
So what is unusual about that lady ?

Her face was hardly visible ,eyes popping from the veil
She appeared to speak something .
Something in front of her was hidden with cloth  and sound was coming out of that object --and it was loudspeaker and broadcasting the taped content and that content was meant for getting alms in the name of god,in the name of distress .

This is not unusual scene in Delhi.

What does it signify ?

Does it indicate any deep-rooted problem of indian socio-economic situations?

Saturday 20 September 2014

WHAT MY WIFE THINKS OF ME



  • U DONOT GIVE ATTENTION ON ME
  • U DONOT KNOW THE INVESTMENT ---U FLY AWAY
  • U GIVE IMPORTANCE MORE TO OTHERS 
  • U JUST DONOT STICK TO YOUR PLAN
  • U DONOT KNOW HOW TO EARN MONEY
  • U DONOT CARE OF  ME
  • U DONOT TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEALTH 
  • U DONOT DO ROUTINE HOUSEHOLD WORKS
  • U DONOT TAKE CARE OF THE PERSONS WHO TAKE CARE OF U
  • U MAKE GREAT EFFORT TO ACHIEVE SOMETHING BUT U DONNOT RESPECT THAT THING AFTER GETTING THAT.

MY DEAR FREINDS ,DO U have similar experience ----hahahaha---


Saturday 30 August 2014

The creative process of the universe

The creative process of the universe 

1.ASK--Be specific of kind ,amount ,time 


2.BELIEVE

3.RECEIVE 

From the book The secret

Saturday 16 August 2014

Concentrated on what i wanted

Hi Friends  
how r u?

I wish to share my experience --a experience which matters me because i am went through it .But it matters  you  also because you  are part of that experience 

It all happened when i dropped  my DM course from AIIMS .I began my previous job . I was assigned to look after OPD general cases while radio work was there .

Suddenly there was crisis due to resignation of one of doctor .I was asked to make a request for transfer and i did it. As  a result i was posted  and assigned radio work .Suddenly i came across the fact that the in charge of depatrment  was having no legitimate degree ,more so he was a man of dubious character but fitting to whims and fancy of organisation .
Now i have been  transferred to accomodate the need of  another doctor  in the name of organisational need. 

Since i was sensing all these approaches of organisation ,i set up my own goal of writing mcq book for PG and FRCR prepararation.

AND After almost two years of effort  , i got three book published  . It all happenesd because i concentrated on what i wanted rather than what i donot wanted .

Friday 15 August 2014

Fundamental Techniques in handling people

Fundamental Techniques in handling people

1. donot  criticize ,condemn or complain 
2.Give honest sincere appreciation
3.Arouse in the other person an eager want 

DALE CARNEGIE

Saturday 26 July 2014

The Seven Step Process for Setting and Achieving Your Goals

The Seven Step Process for Setting and Achieving Your Goals (Brian Tracy)
  • First, decide exactly what you want in each area of your life. Be specific!
  • Second, write it down, clearly and in detail.
  • Third, set a specific deadline. If it is a large goal, break it down into sub-deadlines and write them down in order.
  • Fourth, make a list of everything you can think of that you are going to have to do to achieve your goal. As you think of new items, add them to your list.
  • Fifth, organize the items on your list into a plan by placing them in the proper sequence and priority.
  • Sixth, take action immediately on the most important thing you can do on your plan. This is very important!
  • Seventh, do something every day that moves you toward the attainment of one or more of your important goals. Maintain the momentum

Sunday 29 June 2014

Path of my destiny.

I am suffering from a injustice .

But i believe--- that injustice is meant to throw me on the path of my destiny.

This sort of thinking is  helping me  to ease out the present stress.

Hope the path of my destiny will unfold sooner .

Saturday 21 June 2014

NATIONAL ACHIEVERS CONFERENCE


What is NATIONAL ACHIEVERS CONFERENCE
Success Resources has had the pleasure of hosting the world's best speakers and coaches at the National Achievers Congress throughout its 22-year history including: Sir Richard Branson, founder of the Virgin Group; Tony Blair, former Prime Minister of the UK; Bill Clinton, former President of the United States; Anthony Robbins, the world’s number one success coach; Donald Trump, Billionaire and Real Estate Mogul.
Every event sees more than 5,000 participants at each event in countries all over the world. They come from all walks of life, representing industries across the board to meet and interact with legendary success icons.

For the first time in India, we are proud to bring to you Robert Kiyosaki, best-selling author of Rich Dad, Poor Dad together with a panel of International speakers. Book Your Tickets NOW ON BELOW GIVEN LINK






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Friday 20 June 2014

Try for a week .

WHAT YOU WANT ?

Have you written on a piece of paper?

No.

please do it.

Keep the thing you want in focus/in awareness continuously.

Surely, then you would be on the path of getting the goal.

Is it so easy ?

yes. 

Try for just a week.

AND PLEASE SHARE YOUR RESULT ON THIS BLOG (COMMENT)


Wednesday 18 June 2014

The most difficult journey

The most difficult journey


The most difficult journey is through the mind but most 

rewarding also .The journey through the mind will take you 

everywhere you want to go.

Our purpose of life is nothing but what we decide in our 

mind

Monday 9 June 2014

Brainstorming to handle corruption

BRAINSTORMING , a concept developed by ALEX Osborn , refers to a process in which group members generate ideas in a nonjudgmental atmosphere. 

Brainstorming had four rules 

1.donot judge or criticise ideas
2.Be freewheeling.The wilder the idea,the better
3.Go for quantity .The more ideas you have ,the better
4.Build on the ideas of fellow group members
Social networking site provide a very big platform for brainstorming for anything .
Let us start  a brainstorming session to handle corruption ,it is just  meant for idea generation (forget everything about feasibility,impractibility etc)

Sunday 1 June 2014

The most important name in this world

My son (10 yrs old) is enjoying the summer vacation .

As usual he has been given project to prepare (now a days giving project is one of important component of education,hardly matters that project is prepared by the parents .)

My son is very enthusiastic in preparing the project. 

"Reason"

He is going to NANIGHAR ( home to his mother ) and want to finish the project at the earliest .

He is preparing news and collecting news  for his NEWSPAPER PROJECT.

The name of his NEWSPAPER  is ANMOL  TIMES.

Can you guess the name of my son.?

Yes ---it is ANMOL.

Why he chose this name ?

Simply because he made this newspaper and he loves his name .

And please do not be surprised ---this is true  for all of us and the most important name in this word is none other than one's name.

Wednesday 28 May 2014

Just hold on

Just hold on

What you want ? 
Hold it in awareness  
.
How long? 
Till you get.

Will i certainly get what i want if holded in awareness?
Yes,because the law of attraction is in infallible like the law of gravity.

Have you ever seen anything not respoding to the law of gravity?

So what you need to get anything ?
Just hold on ,and rest is the work of universe.

Sunday 25 May 2014

HOW TO GET WHAT YOU WANT

HOW TO GET WHAT YOU WANT

I donot want this boss .
I donot want to work in this office 
I donot want to read in this college.
Idonot want to do this work.
I donot want to read this magzine.
I donot want to see this channel. 
I dont want to do government job.
I donot want to sleep late in the morning.
I donot want to live in this country .
I donot want interference in my family .
I donot want you to be indifferent to resposibility.
I donot want to you neglect me.

Does such thinking pervades your mind? Does such thinking clutters your mind ?
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How frequently you think of what you want?


Most people are thinking about what they donot want ,and they are wandering why  it shows up over and over again. (JOHN ASSARAF)

The only reason why people donot have what they want is because they are thinking more about what they donot want than what they want .(The Law of Attraction)

Humankind is suffering from the "donot want " epidemic.People keep this epidemic alive when they predominantly think ,speak,act and focus on what they "donot want "(RHONDA BYRNE )
The result is you get "what you donot want to get"

What is predominant mode of thinking of children ? "DONOT WANT" OR "WANT" ?

SO SWITCH THE GEAR TO THINKING MODE OF WHAT "YOU WANT"  AND YOU WILL GET WHAT YOU WANT.TRY  AND BE PERSISTANT .VERY SOON YOU WILL GET THE RESULT BECAUSE THE LAW OF ATTRACTION IS ABSOLUTE AND THERE IS NO MISTAKES.

Friday 23 May 2014

Sudden feeling of impending death

 Sudden feeling of impending death


I was puzzled 

It was morning, sprinkling water over the face.I had a

 sudden feeling of impending death ,i was feeling very light

 and ,morever i was ready to die and depart .I was having

 feeling of  exhilaration .

Within seconds that feeling was gone ,it was very very 


transient.

Was it extrasensory perception?

I donot know.

Does anybody has similar or related experience?

Wednesday 21 May 2014

My wife is angry with me

It is morning and my  wife is angry with me.
She has valid reason to be so.
There is no milk for tea .
Why ?
Because my ATM card is not working ,we are unable to withdraw the money.

ATM card is too old and much used (due to frequent  withdrawal  of small amount-----no way out , i hope you understand my limitations) .

My wife was frequently nagging me to change the card,but i was not giving due attention.

And the situation arises to the extent that we are having no milk

YES ,result of procrastination.

Appears small things ?

But , is it really small things ?

NO.

Sunday 18 May 2014

Why not myself look after my own brother .?

Why not myself look after my own brother .?




I am happy now.
I took decision for which i am proud of and thanks GOD for divine guidance.

My brother was mentally challenged . I took maximum care ,taken the best posiible advice .
But-----
I was mentally and physically feeling exhausted .My brother 's illness was not improving .His behavioral problem was just testing my all strengths.Ultimately i took a decision much angaist wish .----a decision to hand over to  the NGO to take care of  brother.

I discussed the matter with concerned offcer of the NGO in his office and was feeling happy on acceptance of my request .

I was out of the office and going  though the corridor.to collect the admission form

There was a volunteer holding 9-10 yrs girl wearing dirty frocks,and having a vacant look.She was rescued from railway station .Suddenly the girl started coughing and vomited on the floor .There was no angry look on volunteer,rather she sympathetically strocked her back and consoled her.One of the volunteers came forward and wiped away the NOSY.

It was a stunning scene for me .I started thinking--

Who is this girl?
Who is her mother ?
Who is her father?
Does the girl has even legitimate father?
How a 9-10 yrs old girl has been left to wonder on the railway station.?
How is that girl related to the volunteer of the NGO?
Is it sheer job that has brought that volunter to work in this NGO ?

While i was thinking ,i again entered into the room of the officer .
Madam,you filled the form ?
No.Now NO NEED TO FILL THE FORM.. I AM TAKING BACK MY BROTHER TO MY HOME.

Smile and confidence beamed over my face ----yes , i can take care of my brother whatever be the challenge.When they can look after the unknown ,why not myself look after my own brother .?




Saturday 10 May 2014

OTHER WAY ROUND

OTHER WAY ROUND 

Smart people anywhere in the company should have the power to drive an initiative .

Microsoft awareness that something very dramatic was going on around the internet really came from an employee,so he become a change agent at Microsoft .


BILL GATES

HOW MANY ORGANISATIONS /INSTITUTES (GOVERMENT /NON-GOVERNMENT )OF INDIA/WORLD THINK LIKE THAT AND IMPLEMENT ? UNFORTUNATELY ,OTHER WAY ROUND IS CERTAINLY TRUE.